Forgiving is difficult if the heart is full of revenge Why is forgiveness necessary? Hi, all of you! Do you know whether you are ...
Forgiving is difficult if the heart is full of revenge
Why is forgiveness necessary?
Hi, all of you!
Do you know whether you are one of the recipes for a happy life? One of them is forgiveness.
I made this discussion not because when we were in trouble. However, forgiveness is, indeed crucial. By forgiving others, our hearts will be calmer and live more peacefully. Conversely, if we continue to hold grudges and do not want to let go of the ego, then be sure the heart will continue to feel angry and anxious.
Forgiveness does not mean forgetting.
Someone's memory of someone else's mistakes cannot be erased. The human brain has always been designed to remember the bad things that happened to him rather than the good things that happened in his life. That makes us very difficult to forgive, but forgiving does not mean we have to forget what we have experienced. Forgiveness means we do not hold grudges and sincerity at what has happened.
Forgiving parents is mandatory, considering that their services will not be rewarded even with the whole world.
Every person must have made a mistake, and his name is also human, his place is wrong and sin. Parents also must have made their children feel hurt. However, is it appropriate for a child to hold a grudge and hate his parents? Not!
I have a father whose person is so firm, hard, more precisely. He will not hesitate to use violence when I make a mistake. I don't forget every time you punish me, but every time I remember I smile, sometimes even laugh. Why are you laughing? Because I remember how much you wanted to see me become a better person.
Apart from all that, My father also made a big mistake that almost made my family separate. I am not too fond of your actions, but I don't hate my father. My mother said, "As bad as your actions are, he is your father. He did not give birth to you, but thanks to him, you were born." I always admire mom because she is a big-hearted person. He can forgive.
There are so many in my neighborhood that children hate and don't want to forgive their parents. There are some of my friends who come from broken home families. They end up hating their father. Why is that? It cannot be separated from her role. There is someone I know who gives the doctrine to his child that the father of the child is a wrong person, and he must stay away from his father.
For all mothers who divorce their husbands, do not give lousy doctrine to children. For example, my mother, revenge will only cause anxiety and unease in the heart. Do you want your child to live in fear of life?
So, you guys, stop hating each other! Let's forgive each other, and we will not live forever in the world. Tomorrow or the day after when we die, who will take care of our bodies if not someone else. After all, you guys want to get up and bury yourself again. Forgiving others is indeed difficult, but forgiving yourself is even more difficult. Believe it, and there will be no one who can forgive others before he can pardon himself.
Regret for what has been done is often the reason we find it hard to forgive ourselves. Regret because of the wrong choice, feeling yourself stupid and useless, unable to accept shortcomings, also an environment that sometimes corners us so that it ends up making us humble ourselves. These things make us hate ourselves and difficult to forgive.
Well, some tips from me so that all of you can forgive yourself:
- Make peace with the past, and history cannot be repeated, especially repaired. Leave it alone; just make learning and don't repeat it. (In the real world there is no time machine like in the Avenger movie)
- Positive thinking, the human brain is always biased toward negativity. However, that doesn't mean you can't be trained to be positive. Well, for that we in every problem that exists, try to take the lesson.
- Accept yourself, don't like to compare yourself with others, huh. The neighboring grass is always greener, but behind the grass, nobody knows what's wrong.
- Share frequently, sharing what I mean is not just goods or food, huh. However, sharing stories (confide in, not gossiping neighbors)
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